Archive for March 2009:



(picture- courtsey



Footprints in water
Here now
– gone forever

Logical Progression
Portal to portal -Of immortal
Mortal remains – Inert
Dust to dust
Grain of sand- entity
Lost in sea of sand- nonentity
Only truth- stark reality







Medusa headed tangents
Can become


Lame Tame Shame
             Thoughtful Thoughtless Careful
Careless Conniving Calculating
                               Rueful Effective Defective
Apathetic Sympathetic Aggressive
         Passive Tenuous Tenacious
Flimsy Sticky Greasy
                                Diabetic Bucolic Jaundiced
Loveless, Dominating, Abusive
          Affectionate Caring Daring
Callous Cruel Hurtful
               Loving  Endearing Heartening
Joyful Enchanting Peaceful
                       Dutiful Dragging Hampering
Joining Separating Freeing
                  Holding Close Distant
Uplifting Rejuvenating Bracing
                           Soothing strengthening spiritual



If I was on a march at the moment I would be saying to everyone: ‘Be honest with each other. Admit there are limitless possibilities in relationships, and love as many people as you can in whatever way you want, and get rid of your inhibitions, and we’ll all be happy.
Ian Mckellen English, Actor


People are not perfect… very often the relationships that are strongest are those where people have worked through big crises, but they’ve had to work through them. So the challenge to us is to work through that.
Patricia Hewitt British, Politician



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Euthanasia & Living Will Part I


The media was going crazy trying to get a glimpse of the Spanish Royal family and a chance for an interview with the grieving family members.  Everyone was stoic and tight-lipped.  Donna Isabella was brain dead. She had fallen down the marble staircase of her duplex penthouse in Manhattan and was on life support.  Per her living will, her shell shocked husband had asked the doctors to switch off her life support machine – but this news had been leaked out and now there a huge uproar from her devout  family members and the catholic clergy as Euthanasia was illegal in Spain.

Princess Donna Isabella had led a sheltered life and was always chaperoned by her beloved duena Tita Lozano who loved her like her own child.  She was the favorite of her Papa as she was the only daughter with two brothers.  She had blossomed into a beautiful young woman and had persuaded her papa to permit her to attend the wedding of her best friend Donna Maria to her elder brother Carlos’s best friend Paulo.  Carlos and she were in Rome for the wedding.  This was the first time she was away from the family and relished every moment.  It was a perfect morning and she had risen early and had quietly sneaked out on her own to visit the famous Fountain of Trevi.  Her friend and chauffeur whisked her away and she found herself standing in front of the fountain.  She opened her scarf and let her auburn tresses fly in the wind.  She laughed in sheer joy.  She looked picture perfect.  Diametrically opposite her stood Patrick Murphy who was there on a short Roman Holiday after a grueling work week.  He too was enjoying the view of Trevi when the sound of joyous laughter came as a pleasant wave and caressed his ears.

He lifted his head with a rich mane of blond hair and stared into a pair of dark limpid eyes.  He was enchanted.  Then as Isabella blushed and turned away to take some shots with her camera, he too did likewise.  But as luck would have it, they were so engrossed in capturing Trevi from all angles that they bumped into one another unawares!!  Patrick caught her in his arms or else she’d have toppled and fallen.  He was mesmerized by the pair of dark mischief laden eyes full of  laughter.  A dimple appeared on her left cheek and captivated him completely.  He was lost.    For her it was an adventure and her almost twenty year old heart was beating fast in excitement.

She was giddy headed and reckless and agreed when he asked her for coffee and a snack.  They made their way to an open air café and ordered coffee and croissants.  Both spoke at once asking questions and then he said you first.  Bella merely said she was a college student in town for her friend’s wedding.  Patrick said he was an architect and was working for the firm who had won the contract to rebuild New York world trade center.  He also mentioned that he had been offered a junior partnership in his firm as the senior partners were very pleased with his avant garde and futuristic design sense.  He would be their bridge between old world and the new mod design concepts.  Cupid had really struck and even though they’d just met, they both felt as though they knew one another from ages and time flew.  Soon they realized it was lunchtime and Isabella had to rush back for a formal luncheon with her friend.  Promising to call as soon as she was able to meet, she vanished from his sight.

to be contd….

Euthanasia and Living Will – Part II


Patrick Murphy felt himself drowning!! This was the first time he felt like that after his school days crush for science teacher with the sexy voice and drop dead gorgeous looks!!  He was in body changing phase and as his awareness grew, so did his puppy love for his teacher.  But that crush died rather quickly as he saw his teacher in a clinch with the  Physical Ed lady teacher and that fizzled his ardor like to a wet blanket on raging fire.

Isabella sped to her room to freshen up and hastened to the luncheon her friend’s family had thrown.  Her face was pink with all the morning excitement and she was dying to confide to her bro Carlos as they were very close to each other.  Finally she caught him on the terrace and told him about her invite and meeting with Patrick.  He cautioned her but upon seeing her happy face he agreed to come along and checkout Patrick.  Then Bella called and made rendezvous with the three of them for brunch on the piazza.

Carlos and Patrick hit off at the outset as both were avid soccer fans and traded notes et al.  Patrick had developed his love for soccer whilst in Europe for a couple of years studying architecture.  Carlos got good vibes from Patrick and gave his blessings to both Bella and Patrick.  Then he cautioned Patrick about their blueblood and warned him about possible bottlenecks where their alliance was concerned from the family and left them alone.  Time flew for both Bella and Patrick and it was time to leave.  Reluctantly they parted after exchanging phones and email info. etc.   Patrick informed Bella that he may actually make a work related trip to Madrid to get design inspiration from the magnificent edifices.  She was elated and promised to keep in touch in the interim and bid adieu.

Patrick and Carlos and Bella kept in constant touch and through them Patrick came to know the likes and dislikes of their parents and the other sibling Roberto.  He searched and found a rare coin to add to the royal dad’s collection.  Bella’s mom was fond of intricate filigreed hand held fans.  Patrick had picked up a rare fan on one of his trips to China and reluctantly decided to part with it as well.  He felt it was small price to pay for his Bella.  For Roberto and Carlos he decided to get autographed soccer balls.  Here he had a lucky break as David Beckham upon moving to California had short listed a few architectural firms and Patrick’s firm was one of them.  So, it was easy for him to request  autographed soccer balls. For his Bella, Patrick got his jewelry designer friend to design a beautiful delicate bracelet in platinum and precious stones.  All gifts ready and wrapped he could relax now.

He could concentrate on his projects as he wanted to do well financially so that he could provide all that his loving heart wished for his Bella viz. a lifestyle she was used to or at least up to her level. Their love had raced full throttle.

Patrick called up Bella and asked to speak to her dad.  Bella informed that already Carlos and she had filled him in about Rome events.  Patrick asked formal permission to court Bella.  Dad gave in conditionally saying he’d like to meet him personally first and invited him for dinner.    The royal apartments with their rich history and décor made his heart sink but he loved Bella dearly and was determined to disarm her Patrician parents.  He had his gift bag ready and after a lavish dinner when they retired to the den, Patrick decided to give the gifts.  Diffidently he gave the coin and fan to the parents.  They were both delighted and disarmed as they realized the thought and care behind this gesture as their intrinsic value for them was meaningless.  Roberto and Carlos were delighted with the autographed soccer balls from David Beckham.  Finally he gave Bella the bracelet and she was charmed by its workmanship and beauty.  Last but not the least, Patrick had even brought a lovely antique cameo for Tita, Bella’s nanny who blushed and curtsied happily.
The wooing of the whole family en masse was a fait complit!!  Patrick was half way there
And his love boat was rock steady!!

to be contd…for concluding part

Euthanasia and Living Will – Part III Conclusion


Donna Maria, Bella’s mom had a weak heart.  These days, she was feeling under the weather and wanted her darling wed whilst she was still alive.  She had developed a soft corner for Patrick who was always courteous and well mannered and managed to convince Carlos Sr. to bless their alliance.  Carlos Sr. himself had developed a grudging respect for Bella’s choice despite himself and the marriage was fixed to the lovers’ delight.  It was a royal wedding and a grand affair with the world’s Who’s Who in attendance along with Patrick’s mom and twin sister Tricia and his firm’s senior partners.
After a fantastic honeymoon in St. Moritz and French Riviera the newly weds departed for New York.


It was their first wedding anniversary and Patrick had taken Bella to his favorite haunts in Carmel and San Francisco with a final trip to the Wine country in Sonoma California.  They enjoyed themselves immensely. The night before their departure they went for a dinner dance cruise in Frisco Bay.  As they were returning home their boat had a head on collision with another speedboat which was being steered by a drunken soldier on furlough.  They fell in the bay.  After a couple of hours they were fished out and mercifully none the worse for wear and quietly returned home thankful to be alive.

There was another reason for their concern as Bella was pregnant.  There was a double rejoicing as she was carrying twins per the Murphy family gene pool n tradition.  On their return from the doctor’s office, they decided to visit their attorney to put all their affairs in order as their recent accident had shook them up.   After nine plus months Bella gave birth to a boy and a girl.  The girl Sophia Maria with lovely blond hair and the boy Sean Robert had her auburn hair.  They were all in seventh heaven.  The proud parents and all the grand parents.  After the twin’s christening, the Murphy’s made another trip to the attorney’s office and set up trust funds for the twins and also decided to make a living will just in case something untoward happens.  Now, their affairs were in order and they were at peace.


The twins fourth birthday party was a grand success and this time the grandparents and both Roberto and Carlos had come in a special chartered plane for this event.  Everyone
was happy and content.  Donna Maria and Carlos Sr. were attending the special Sunday mass at St Patrick’s church and all the men were at Flushing Meadows for the tennis matches.  They were staying at the Waldorf Astoria Hotel and were planning to return there directly before the evening gala event.  Bella was at home busy supervising the arrangements for the evening party thrown in her parent’s honor and she was eager to introduce them to her new acquired American friends.

Bella was very happy with her designer gown which Donna Maria had brought for her. She was ready for the evening and was already dressed and decided to make a final round of the kitchen and checkup on the staff and the twins.  As she started coming down the steps, her foot slipped and she fell headlong down the marble steps.  She let out a scream and lost consciousness.  The way she fell, she had cracked her head severely and was declared brain dead upon arrival at the hospital.  The whole Murphy house was in mourning.  It was one month since Bella was on life support system


The court was full of spectators and the media was going crazy outside.  Today the Church attorney and the Spanish pastor were going to speak.  Outside pro and con choice groups were also holding silent vigils.  Patrick wanted to let his love go peacefully as per her wishes but her family was totally against this!!  He was unhappy and confused.  The twins were bewildered and missed their mother.  Luckily his office had given him leave of absence and he also worked from home when needed.

Everyone had spoken their bit before the judge and were waiting for the court verdict.  Suddenly from the back of the court a stately African American  woman called Tabitha got up and asked permission to approach the bench.  The judge allowed her to approach and speak.  She said “Your honor by profession I am a psychic and  a medium.  People who have crossed over use me to convey their wishes to their loved ones if they have passed away before fulfilling them or wish to let their loved ones know where to find some important document etc.

.  Today I had a very strange thing happened to me.  I have been following the case of Mrs. Bella Murphy when suddenly her spirit contacted me and asked me to convey her wishes to this court and her parents especially.  To convince all present her spirit has given me some irrefutable information which only she and her close family know of.  The judge asked Bella’s Family to listen carefully to what Tabitha had to convey.

First she said that in childhood Bella had a pet rabbit named Senor Poirot!! The whole family were taken aback.  Then Tabitha said that Bella also said that the heirloom ring which Donna Maria’s grandmother had given her, she had taken in childhood and since there was so much hue and cry when it went missing, she had gotten scared and had hidden it in the tiny purse of her favorite doll which was still lying in her room in the palace.  With court’s permission Donna Maria called Tita and soon it was verified that the purse did contain the ring that had been missing for past fifteen years.  Tabitha also mentioned a few personal quirks of the parents and Roberto and Carlos and thus all present were convinced that indeed it was Bella’s spirit that had used Tabitha as her medium.  This was a first for Tabitha as normally only people who had died contacted her but even though Bella was brain dead still she was on life support and hence alive.  The Judge then pronounced his verdict.

You decide how to end it!! per your conviction n conscience******************************************************************


Living will: A living will is one form of advance medical directive. Advance medical directives pertain to treatment preferences and the designation of a surrogate decision-maker in the event that a person should become unable to make medical decisions on their own behalf.


Should euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide be legal? *

Core Question   Should euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide be legal?
Definitions and Language   Euthanasia
Physician-Assisted Suicide/ Physician Aid in Dying
Differentiating Terms

Moral Questions   Slippery Slope –   Religious Concerns –   Double Effect

Advance Directives   Living Wills –   Health Care Power of Attorney

End-of-Life Medical Care   Palliative Care –   Futility –  Do-Not-Resuscitate Orders
Euthanasia in Practice –   Ethical Concerns –   Hippocratic Oath –  Motivations for Hastened Death

Health Care Implications   American Healthcare System
Insurance Considerations -Special Groups   Disabled Patients –  Elderly Patients –  Poor Patients
Minority Patients –   Female Patients –  Infant Patients

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